|
What does a dating service have to do with a question of compatibility By David Brett
Using a dating service could seriously save you, not only time, but much heart ache It's a way of getting to know a person from a distance before committing yourself to quickly. We have all heard this story before, or perhaps even seen it unfold before our very eyes. Girl meets boy they start dating, the chemistry is perfect, the two of them sweep each other off their feet, and for every moment they are apart feels like an eternity that fills them with loneliness. To get over this pain of separation, they marry and try to create their own version of happily ever after. A year later, the things that they find cute and endearing with each other become minor irritations. The girl is a homebody while the boy likes hanging out with his mates at the pub, or sitting for hours in front of his computer online on the Internet. She swoons over classical symphonies while he loves banging his head with his heavy metal music, which drives her nuts. She wants to have kids but he thinks they are both too young for it. Two years later, embittered and estranged from each other, they file for divorce and go their separate ways. It is a common story, and I am sure we can all relate to someone who has been in this position at some stage in there life. Such heartaches and painful memories could have been prevented if couples took the time to ascertain that their partners are indeed Mr. or Ms. Right, beyond the physical attraction that they feel for each other, before they commit their lives to each other. Compatibility is something that is largely taken for granted nowadays, but no matter what people say, compatibility is the one thing that keeps a couples together. How do you know that you and your partner are compatible with each other? Answer these seven questions to find out if you are. 1. Are you physically attracted to your partner? Of course, physical appearance is the one factor that would bring the two of you together for the first time. But what happens to your feelings when she starts developing cellulite on her thighs and has no intention of burning it off? Would you still love him when he loses his rock-hard abs? 2. Are you both emotionally mature? Do you both display a certain degree of maturity when dealing with issues, or are your decisions largely affected by the baggage you both carry from previous relationships? Are you both supportive of each other, or does one tend to pull the other down? 3. Do your lifestyle preferences match? Do you have the same likes and dislikes? Do you like doing the same things? Of course it is important for the two of you to retain your individuality within the relationship, but there must be some interests that you have in common. Otherwise, the two of you will end up bored, with nothing to talk about. 4. Do you agree on money matters? Have the two of you settled on how you will share on the household expenses? What about savings and investments? Does his penny-pinching ways irritate you? Is her incessant shopping for shoes that she will never wear annoying the heck out of you? 5. Do you share the same values? The values that you agree to hold together will be the foundation of your relationship and the family that you will build together. Does his values system jive with yours? Do you agree on what religion you will raise your children? Do you agree to have children at all? 6. Do both of you fill each other's needs for sex and intimacy? Let's face it. Sex and intimacy are integral aspects of a romantic relationship, and each partner has his or her own needs and expectations. Are the two of you sexually compatible? Do you feel at ease in communicating your needs to your partner? 7. Do you match each other intellectually? Couples have to be able to understand each other and know what the other is talking about without having to resort to so much elaboration. When one of them always "reaching up" or "stooping down," chances are the relationship will not last.
These are the seven practical questions that couples should ask themselves and each other in order to determine if they are indeed compatible with each other. Of course couples can always compromise, but always, in order for a relationship to last, compatibility is important. By using our dating services you can get to know each other from a distance and later, if it feels right for you decide on meeting up to find out if you are truly compatible with each other. |
